Friendships

I love friends that I can that I can speak with every day without getting tired of them, but with that I also know that I don´t need to speak with them every day to keep the relationship alive. For example, my friend Martin. He is someone I´ve known for 10 years, maybe a bit less, and he is one of those friends were it can go months between us speaking, and then when we feel like it again we just pick up were ever we were last time we spoke.
I´ve always been like this with friends, and I guess the people that still are my friends understands this about me or they might actually feel the same way. Note that I would never ignore someone trying to speak with me or if someone that I care about doesn´t feel the same way I would try meet them half way.

Childhood toys

A while back, I coulden´t decide whether I was to consider myself lucky that I´ve all my childhood toys saved, stored away in my parents attic or if it just was really annoying that my parents saved them all. Fact is, that I had started to clean out some of them and I got the feeling that my parents thought I was throwing away a bit to much. Anyways, I was discussing this with my boyfriend and he said "if your parents want to save them in THEIR attic, it´s not really effecting you in any way, why care". Of course, I gave him some lame excuse, (cause well that´s just who I am - sorry älskling), but the thing is that he was right.
This whole thing was/is kind of trivial, but what I keep from it is that "letting go" is really one of the nicest feelings that exist. I will let my parents save all of my things if it makes them happy.

Friends crossing the line - sexual propositions 

The other night I was quietly minding my own business, watching LCS and drinking cold drinks, basically chilling in the summer heat, when I got a call. The call was from a friend, a drunk friend. Said should be, is that I´m an easy going person, I like to joke around and not take things to seriously. However, this friend fully stepped over the line, and said something that not only pissed me of but also gave me a really uncomfortable feeling. I understand friends getting a bit drunk and wanting to joke around, but to in detail describe what the person in question wanted to do with me in an adult way, was not okay in any way. I have zero tolerance for this and will not likely ever speak with this person again.
Lastly, why do people get so intoxicated that they don´t know any more how to behave?

Vegetarian cooking

For a good while now, I´ve not been able to stomach eating meat, and I´ve no idea why but I´m rolling with it.
Not being used to only cook vegetarian dishes I made the mistake of buying "soy meat", thinking "well it´s a good source of protein". How ever I really distaste the the flavor of it.
There fore I´ve the past weeks experimented with different vegetarian things to cook, my go to thing is absolutely different kind of pies, only down fault with them is it the fact that the pie dough in itself is´nt the most nutritious thing to eat, (I started to use whole wheat when making it though).

Right now, I also have a thing for chickpeas and I kind of just throw them in to anything I cook, like last night I made this little vegan friendly dish with rice... 

"Just the right skin tone"

In Swedish we have a word "lagom" that doesn´t really have an English translation, it means that something is in between, for example not to much food nor to little, just the right amount.
Anyways if you were told, or heard someone being told that they are just of the right skin tone, not to to dark in this scenario, how would you react? Would you be offended?
Myself, I´m not the person who needs to take every thing, that appears a bit odd to me, to a battle. How ever, I would probably wonder how this person was thinking making a comment like that. To me, there is no "lagom"/"just the right" type of skin color, and as silly as it sounds, what matters to me really is that mind and heart of yours. 

 Summer Vlog

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH5rXzbFUhc&list=UUKIf6uhkp0cP82-OW5u-lbQ

The smallest thing can make a difference

Last night there was a fire in the building next to me. At that time I didn´t know it was next to me though, so I decided to go up and down the stairs in my building to see if the smell and smoke came from where any of the elderly people are living in the house. Knowing that at least one of them lives alone and can´t walk very good, I didn´t want anyone to get hurt. 

What surprised me is that I was the only one doing so, and I´m not saying this to paint myself as a saint, (I´m not), more so to make people think that extra step. I was thinking about that I wish someone had done the same it being my grandmother when she was still alive and If not for anything else, only for the reason that next time it might be you that needs help.

Breaking the norm - not wanting children

When asked if I want to have children one day and I say "no" people usually reacts with surprise, especially when they find out my age. Of course they are to polite to question it straight out but I can see what they really are thinking, that I´m breaking the norm, that it´s weird and that I one day will regret this decision. To me on the other hand it´s more weird to have a child because it´s something I "should" do/have in my life. I know though that I´m not alone in thinking like this, due to non of my friends having children of their own yet.
Anyways, considering that I at times even think my dog takes up to much of my time, (sshh don´t tell her), I know having a child at this time would be disastrous. For now I´m therefor quite content being a cool aunt to my sister child.

It´s ugly to have money, it´s ugly to not have money

Still in school, 12 years back, I had ended up in a class with very strong minded people, especially when it came to politics and money.
One day when we were chilling, waiting for one of our classes to start, we discussed what we had gotten for Christmas, (when thinking back on things, maybe I should have lied, but first of all I am not a good lier and secondly why should I have to?).  Anyways, I stated that I got like 400 dollar something as a gift of my parents. The reaction I got, I could never have imagined, some of my classmates stated "that is simply wrong", "I don´t  think you should have gotten that" etc.
Funny is, that this was the same people who thought some clothes were nice looking just because it was of a high fashion brand. I still remember sporting a yellow hoody of a high fashion brand and they going "oh what a nice hoody, I want that", (note that they never commented on anything I was wearing when it was of a simple H&M brand).
Back then I learned, that money isn´t the best thing to discuses with people you don´t know well.

 Not being scared of living - trusting other people

Like a child burning their hand on the stove, learning not to ever do that again, it´s easy to avoid other situations in adulthood the same way.

Something came up with my partner, something similar to what have hurt me in the past, and I could have chosen to run from it, but I didn´t.

How do you live a life, not being afraid of being hurt? I can just tell how I do it. I choice to live in the present, and trusting every new person I meet until they have proven me otherwise, (of course with in reasonable limits). How do I keep myself to this? I just do, that´s how strongly I feel about it, my will is one of the strongest things I have, I choice to steer my mind a certain way. This is´nt the simplest thing to do, I know so, but with practice it will work.

Side not, I do not have any doubts regarding my partner or the relationship I´m in. I know my man would never do anything to hurt me, or I would not have mentioned this here at all. 

I simply wish for everyone to be able to live a life where they are not scared of being hurt and enjoy every day.

"He wore pink jail slippers"

The other week when I was on my way to meet up with my sister, a young man approached me and asked where the train station might be. I pointed him the right direction and not thinking he had something else to ask I looked down to my phone to finish a text message I just had started typing. That´s  when I hear the young mans voice again, I look up and realize he is now walking beside me as if we were acquaintances. He says: so I´ve just been there for 3 days straight and points to the police station. 

I honestly had no idea they keep people over night there, I thought it was only offices, and he must have seen the surprise in my face because that´s when he points down to the pair of pink slippers he is sporting, stating "they gave me these". Anyways, after that he kept walking beside me to the train station as we now were friends, telling me where he was traveling and such. 

Does things like this happen to you guys, or is it just me? Cause, to me this is quite common, random people striking up random conversations.

Gamer Girl - Roles Reversed

Yes, I´m one of those girls that like to play games, especially League of Legends and Minecraft. 

I laugh a bit to myself about this since my boyfriend does not play games, not that I know of at least. It´s like roles reversed in comparison to many other relationships. I´ve female friends who complain about their men sitting and playing games and that they just can´t understand how that is any fun. 

In my mind, I for some reason figured my partner would be a gamer, maybe that´s the reason to why when I the first time approached my man  asked him to play League of Legends with me, (he hated it, don´t ask me on how to pick up men, I´ve no idea. haha). I must say that, I prefer it this way, I do like that we have different interests.

(Btw isn´t the subject line for this post a bit thought provoking in it self, or is that just me?)

A love story

Seven months ago, I meet the man of my life. There was an instant connection, a feeling of finally finding home, two energy's meeting and fusing together as a unit. I feel weightless and I am excited for what the future has to bring.